Consent & Boundaries

Why It Matters

  • Everyone has the right to safety, respect, and control over their own body.

  • Learning about consent and boundaries helps young people build healthy friendships, relationships, and self-confidence.

  • Talking about these topics regularly reduces risk of harm and increases understanding.

Key Messages for Parents to Share

  1. Your body belongs to you

    • You get to decide who can touch you, when, and how.

    • You can say yes or no at any time.

  2. Consent must be clear

    • A real yes is happy, enthusiastic, and free from pressure.

    • Silence, uncertainty, or “maybe” is not consent.

  3. Respecting others

    • Always ask before touching, hugging, or sitting close.

    • If someone says no or looks uncomfortable, stop straight away.

  4. Changing your mind is okay

    • Saying yes once doesn’t mean always yes.

    • You can stop or leave any situation that feels wrong.

Tips for Talking with Your Teen or Young Adult

  • Use simple, concrete language. Break ideas down into short, clear sentences.

  • Role-play real-life situations. Practice asking for permission and responding to yes and no.

  • Repeat the messages often. Short, regular conversations help with memory and comfort.

  • Watch for signs of understanding. Ask your child to explain back in their own words or show you in a role-play.

  • Stay calm and open. Make it safe to ask questions without shame.

Helpful Phrases to Teach

  • “Can I give you a hug?”

  • “No thanks, I don’t want to.”

  • “I’ve changed my mind.”

  • “I want to stop now.”

  • “Thanks for asking.”

Quick Reminders for Parents

  • Respect your young person’s no — this models good consent.

  • Celebrate when they set healthy boundaries.

  • Check in gently: “How did that feel?” or “What do you want to do?”

  • Consent isn’t just about romantic or sexual situations — it applies to everyday things like sharing food, using belongings, or spending time together.

Remember: Consent and boundaries are life skills. Teaching them early and reinforcing them often helps your child stay safe, confident, and respected.

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